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To Be Understood

  • Writer: dMbOndemand dMbOnDemand
    dMbOndemand dMbOnDemand
  • Feb 16
  • 1 min read

I have noticed something about our disagreements. First, I am appreciative that we do not have many. But when we do, I have noticed that what it boils down to are moments where both of us feel misunderstood.


Not so much that the other person is wrong, just that each of us feels unseen or unheard.

It seems to me there should be an easier way to diffuse this when it happens. Maybe setting emotions aside and explaining ourselves clearly could make a difference.


With me, I notice that I repeat myself when I feel misunderstood. With you, I notice that you tend to deflect when you feel misunderstood. So maybe when I hear myself repeating and you hear yourself deflecting, we could put the brakes on those reactions and try a different approach.


Maybe we could pause and say, I want to understand you. Try again.

I think that might go a long way.

 
 
 

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